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How To Feel Like Your Authentic Self In Social Situations


Are you someone who feels more of their true self when no one else is around, as opposed to being in the presence of others?

I don’t know about you, but I personally feel more relaxed, laid back, and maybe a bit silly when I am home alone with just me and the dog! I am giddy, unguarded, and YES…I talk to myself, sing to the dog and call her silly names! (I think she likes it.)

Young children seem to get it right better than any of us adults do when it comes to being their true authentic self. They sing, laugh, dance & live with an abundance of energy and no worries of whether anyone else is watching or of what anyone thinks of them.

It is none of your business of what others think about you

As adults, we are more on guard than children are, in social situations because conversations with others can lead us to feel assorted emotions with many shades of gray in between. Since we have a desire to bond and be accepted by other people, we self-consciously watch what we say, how we say it and decide whether to be agreeable or complacent. Plus we study the other person’s body language to judge the authenticity of the person and of how the conversation is making us feel at that particular moment.

There are certain types of people with a stronger personality, who tend to make others feel inferior by emanating more of an intense negative vibe. It is the friction between their ego fighting against yours that can make you feel uncomfortable or imbalanced either emotionally or physically, bringing you down energetically. Basically…like attracts like, so if someone that you are talking to is miserable, then that can be contagious to you…making you miserable as well!

Remember…It Is never you. It is always them. Some people simply have the inability to make others feel welcomed. Plus, those who are unhappy with themselves sometimes have a way of characterizing other people in a negative light, that they themselves are hiding behind.

You have a choice of whether or not to take on the belief of what others think of you. Basically, you need to ignore it or risk feeling any potential imbalance because of it. What others think about you is simply a theory and opinion,…not a fact!  It is up to you to make the decision to dismiss it and to not let it have any impact on you what so ever. In other words, it is none of your business of what others think about you. Period.

Four key factors that affect the way other people can make you feel

  1. The mood that the other person is in, and if they are feeling positive or negative.
  2. Whether they are emanating a sense of fear or love towards you.
  3. The intensity of their personality and whether they have a desire to make others feel inferior or accepted.
  4. Your ability to protect your emotions from another person’s negative vibe.

You may not have the total control of how another person’s energy can make you feel at any given moment, but you can shield yourself by protecting your Aura.


If necessary, when you are around certain people that you know can drain your energy, either physically or emotionally, put up an invisible protective shield around yourself to guard against other people’s negative input or vibe. (Sort of a way of rejecting or deflecting what other people are reflecting upon you.)

You are the bigger person with a clearer insight knowing how and when to be of comfort to others,…who is in need…and who deserves the comfort that you can give them. Be your true real self! No one can take your power away. You get one life as who you are now! And if no one has told you lately…you are perfect just the way you are!

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