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Photography by Ivana Vostrakova

Minimalist strong composition and clear lines are typical for Ivana Vostrakova’s work. They apply mainly in the minimalist graphical shortcuts. They are, in some cases, moreover enriched by including new elements and then appeared in the new surprising contexts. Another important group of the artist’s work consists of original photographic montages. Blending of perspectives, taking things and characters out of their usual context and combination of seemingly incompatible elements to create a completely new unexpected reality.


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Photography by Ivana Vostrakova Minimalist strong composition...

















Photography by Ivana Vostrakova

Minimalist strong composition and clear lines are typical for Ivana Vostrakova’s work. They apply mainly in the minimalist graphical shortcuts. They are, in some cases, moreover enriched by including new elements and then appeared in the new surprising contexts. Another important group of the artist’s work consists of original photographic montages. Blending of perspectives, taking things and characters out of their usual context and combination of seemingly incompatible elements to create a completely new unexpected reality.


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Teen Vogue Shoots by Ben HassettA self-taught photographer,...





















Teen Vogue Shoots by Ben Hassett

A self-taught photographer, Hassett is a camera enthusiast, photographic print and photobook collector. His art practice at once embraces the future of photography and celebrates its past. He now lives and works in New York City where he has established a reputation as one of the world’s foremost beauty and portrait photographers. His current personal work includes a photographic study of Los Angeles. Pulled from the series Born This Way and Bangers.

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Teen Vogue Shoots by Ben Hassett

A self-taught photographer, Hassett is a camera enthusiast, photographic print and photobook collector. His art practice at once embraces the future of photography and celebrates its past. He now lives and works in New York City where he has established a reputation as one of the world’s foremost beauty and portrait photographers. His current personal work includes a photographic study of Los Angeles. Pulled from the series Born This Way and Bangers.

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The Desire to Be Liked Will End You up Feeling More Rejected

Admit it, you feel good when other people think you’re nice. Maybe you were complimented by a stranger saying that you had a nice outfit. You felt good about yourself and you were happy for the rest of the day.

We all like to feel liked, whether by a stranger or a loved one. It makes you feel valued and that feeling can be addictive. But when the high wears off and you no longer have validation that someone thinks you’re a good, sweet person, you may feel insecure and lacking. While wanting others to like you isn’t in itself a bad thing, it can be like a disease when you feel that you constantly need to be liked by others.

Humans are wired to want to be liked.

It’s human nature to seek approval from others. In ancient times, we needed acceptance to survive. Humans are social animals and we need to bond with others and form a community to survive. If we are not liked by others, we will be left out.

Babies are born to be cute and be liked by adults—large rounded head, big forehead, large eyes, chubby cheeks, and a rounded body. Babies can’t survive without an adult taking care of them. It’s vital for adults to find babies lovely to pay attention to them and divert energy towards them.[1]

From the time you were a child, whether at school or at home, you have been receiving recognition from external parties. For instance, you received grades from teachers, and if you wanted something, you needed approval from your parents. We’ve learned to get what we want by catering to other people’s expectations. Maybe you wanted to get a higher grade in art so you’d be more attentive in art classes than others to impress your teacher. Your teacher would have a generally good impression on you and would likely to give you a higher grade.

When you grow up, it’s no different. Perhaps you are desperate to get your work done so you do things that your manager would approve. Maybe your manager had preference on the color of a product to sell. Even though you didn’t think pink would be the best color for the product, your manager wouldn’t approve colors other than pink for the product. The project deadline was tight and if you spent a lot of time on convincing your manager, you might leave her a bad impression on your work performance. So you went for your manager’s preference trying to keep up with the project progress.

Facebook and Instagram have only made things worse. People posting their photos and sharing about their life on Instagram just to feels so good to get more likes and attention.

The perception of how others think about us becomes essential to getting what we want. We start to get hyper focused on how others see us, and it’s easy to imagine having the spotlight on you at all time. People see you and they take an interest in you. This feels good. In turn, you start doing more things that bring you more attention. It’s all positive until you do something they don’t like and you receive criticism. When this happens, you spiral because you’ve lost the feeling of acceptance.

But the reality is this is all just perception. Humans, as a species, are selfish. We are all just looking at ourselves; we only perceive others are giving us their focus. Even for those who please others are actually focusing on making themselves feel good. It’s like an optical illusion for your ego.

The desire to be liked is an endless chase.

Aiming to please others in order to feel better will exhaust you because you can never catch up with others’ expectation. The ideal image will always change. It used to be ideal to have a fair weight, a little bit fat was totally acceptable. Then it’s ideal to be very slim. Recently we’ve seen “dad-bods” getting some positive attention. But this is already quickly changing. In fact, a recent article from Men’s Health asked 100 women if they would date a guy who had a dad-bod, about 50% of women claimed to not care either way, only 15% exclusively date men with a “dad bod”.[2]

Others’ expectations on you can be wrong too. Most people put their expectations on others based on what’s right in the social norms, yet the social norms are created by humans in which 80% of them are just ordinary people according to the 80/20 rules.[3]

Think about it, every day, from the time you wake up to the time you go to sleep, you filter what you believe to be truth. If someone compliments you, you take it and add it to an idea of what the best version of yourself is. When someone criticizes you, even in a destructive way, you might accept it altogether, or add it to a list of things you’re insecure about. When you absorb the wrong opinion from others, you will either sabotage your self-esteem or overestimate yourself by accepting all the good compliments and stop growing; or accepting all the destructive criticisms and sabotage your own self-esteem and happiness.

Trying to fulfil other people’s expectations will only leave you feeling more empty. If you live your life as one long effort of trying to please other people, you will never be happy. You’re always going to rely on others to make you feel worth living. This leads to total confusion when it comes to your personal goals; when there’s no external recognition, you don’t know what to live for.

The only person to please is yourself.

Think of others’ approval as fuel and think of yourself as a car. When that fuel runs out, you can’t function. This is not a healthy mindset.

In reality, we’re human and we can create our own fuel. You can feel good based on how much you like yourself. When you do things to make you like yourself more, you can start to see a big change in your opinion. For example, if being complimented by others made you feel good and accepted, look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Say what you wish others would say about you.

Internal approval takes practice, but it’s worth the effort. You have to re-train your own mind. Think of the dog who knows there is food when the bell rings, the reflex is hard wired into the dog.[4] We need our own triggers to reinforce the habit of internal approval too. Recognize yourself every day instead of waiting for people to do it for you, check out in this article the steps to take to recognize your own achievements and gain empowerment: Don’t Wait for People to Praise You. Do It Yourself Every Single Day

Notice that when you start to focus on yourself and what to do to make yourself happy, others may criticize you. Since you’ve stopped trying to please others to meet their expectations, they may judge you for what you do. Be critical about what they say about you. They aren’t always right but so are you. Everyone has blind spots. Let go of biased and subjective comments but be humble and open to useful advice that will improve you.

Remember that you are worth it, every day. It will take time to stop relying on others to make you feel important and worth something, but the sooner you start trying, the happier and healthier you will be.

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Small World Photo and Video

Images from Nikon’s Small World Photo and Video competion (2017).  This competition showcases the amazing ability of scientists and artists to capture the smallest parts of our world.  Thanks to nbcnews.com.


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